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“The warmth of true friendship, the love that binds heart to heart, is a foretaste of the joys of heaven.” AH – 106
“People receive the greatest blessing by staying in one place for at least two years.” Mother commented during a family discussion about moving to new places.
“I will be receiving the greatest blessing from staying here two years.” David said with a twinkle in his eyes. “Did you know that April 17 will be exactly two years from when I moved to the farm?”
“No, is that really so?” Mom responded with surprise. “Show us your journal.”
David pulled out his journal. Sure enough, April 17 was indeed his first day on the farm (he arrived the evening of the 16th).
We, David and Caroline, do feel that the Lord is granting us the greatest blessing (aside from His saving grace) in marriage to each other. It is with great gratitude that we look back over the past few years.
In the spring of 2009 David came to the farm with a great longing to learn -to learn about agriculture, farm lifestyle, family life, and wholehearted service to the Savior from whom all blessings flow. Exactly what the future held was uncertain to him yet his faith was strong and he knew that the Lord was leading. Prior to his arrival at the farm, David had given all his dreams of marriage to the Lord. It looked as if it would be impossible for there to be a godly young lady who would be able to fill all the criteria he felt was so important in a woman. Yet, a month and a half later David called out to the fields and hills as he worked, “I’ve found her! I’ve found her!”
October 2008 was when Caroline laid on the alter all her dreams of marriage. (This was exactly two weeks before she first met David at Wildwood) With confidence and faith in a loving Father who longs to give us the desire of our hearts, she went about her daily duties in the home and garden. When David came to the farm she was busy with home, farm and church responsibilities. It was late July before she came to grips with the fact that she did feel some attraction toward David and admired the godly traits of character that she saw in him. She appreciated how he did not try to draw out her affections or seek out her attention. She felt comfortable and enjoyed his company.
It was in September that David (unbeknownst to Caroline) shared with Dad about his interest in her. After many talks with David, Dad and Mom gave him permission to court the whole family on October 18, 2009. After a special Christmas season with family, the Lord made it clear through various happenings, that it was time for David and Caroline’s friendship to move to the courtship stage. With the permission of the whole family, David asked Caroline on January 4, 2010 if he could court her. It has been a joy to learn and grow together in friendship over the past year.
written by Caroline Dysinger
The first of October was David’s birthday. A couple of weeks before that my mother asked me, “Caroline, what should we do for David’s birthday?”
“Let’s surprise him and invite Kathleen and Stephen to come for the evening.” I said.
I was excited for an opportunity to do something special for David. It was such a joy to think of how to get David’s mom and brother to come over without David knowing. When Stephen called to let me know that he had gotten the day off work, I was thrilled We began to plan a special Friday evening of sharing and singing with David and his family and a delicious supper to bring in the Sabbath.
Friday evening came. A soft glow of candle light filled the living room. Grandma and Grandpa, along with Kathleen and Stephen, joined our family for worship to welcome in the Sabbath day. I played a few pieces on the harp that I had especially planned for David as a surprise. Then after singing, praying and scripture reading, we closed our worship. David then asked if he could share a few thoughts with us. He began by thanking the Lord for another year of life. “It is far better to give then to receive”, he told us. With that he brought out a gift for each of us. He began with my father. First David shared how much my father has blessed him, taught him, and what Dad has meant to him. Tears welled up in my eyes as David shared. From Dad he moved on to Mom and one by one the rest of the family in the circle. He shared some special words and scriptures for each one of the family. The gifts he had chosen corresponded to one of the ways that person had touched him in his life. I was deeply moved by the thoughts he shared.
David saved my gift for last. It was the largest of the gifts and was wrapped in shiny red paper whereas the other gifts were all wrapped in shiny gold paper. “I have a number of gifts in this box for you.” David informed me. “This past year has been so beautiful to me as our friendship has grown through life experiences together.” He reached into the box and presented me with a beautiful white rose. The rose was wrapped in green tissue paper with a few ferns and little pink and white flowers to accent it. It was beautiful. I tried to hold back the tears as he shared.
“Caroline, this white rose represents purity and innocence. As Eden is undefiled and innocent, so are you to me. I cherish your purity and in God’s strength I will guard and keep it like the mighty cherubim with flaming swords at the gate of Eden. To the pure, all things are pure. Out of the abundance of the heart does the mouth speak. I praise the Lord for your pure heart, and blessed are you for blessed are the pure in heart for they shall see God. I love the goodly treasure that is in your heart. “Thou art of purer eyes than to behold evil.” (Hab. 1). Oh how unworthy I am to have you. That He would give me the most pure and undefiled creation He has made.”
Again David reached into the box and presented me with another rose. This rose was pink. At this time I realized that this was indeed the proposal!
“Pink represents grace and elegance. You indeed possess a fine polished elegance and it is heard in your speech and seen in your dress. I perceive in you that you are preparing to go before the King and oh, how majestic is He! I see that you are refining your tastes and correcting your behavior. Even the manner in which you eat is graceful and it says much about your character. You walk with purpose and yet preserve you femininity. You are altogether lovely to me. Thou art all fair my Love. There is no spot in thee.
“This is my favorite rose.” David said as he presented to me the third one. Its beauty out-shined the others. The soft golden yellow petals were framed with delicate pink edges.
“Yellow represents warmth and happiness, so this flower represents our friendship. You warm my soul with your sunshiny smile and affectionate words. You produce a happiness within me that no other friend can provide. You are what I need. I truly understand how Adam felt before Eve was created. It is said of Adam after naming the animals that there was not found an help meet for him. How lonely a feeling. How sad it is to not have a friend, a companion that understands you and your emotions. But when God created Eve, Adam exclaimed, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh!” Oh, what complete fulfillment you bring to my life. I thank my Creator God for you. I am complete with you. None other can take your place.”
Lastly David brought forth from the box a beautiful bouquet of fragrant red roses.
“These red roses represent my love for you and that’s why there are so many of them. My love for you is a most vehemently, burning love. Many waters cannot quench my love, neither can the floods drown it. Just like the waters of the flood could not drown God’s love for Noah, so my love for you cannot be quenched. I will love you all the days of my life with a most jealous love, as cruel as the grave. Red also represents my life. I will pray for you and sweat for you and I will give my life for you. These gifts, this dowry could never pay for you, so I give my life as a dowry for you. Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friend. May God provide this love. Caroline, I love you with every step of my feet, every breath of my mouth, and every beat of my heart.”
My heart was so deeply moved that tears were trickling down my face. I wiped them away and smiled up at David as he placed the red roses beside me and then knelt in front of me. He took my hands in his and continued to share with me. The words that David shared next were some of the most meaningful words, to me, that were shared that night.
“Caroline, we are living in a most solemn time in earth’s history. I take seriously the institution of marriage. I realize that we are living in the last days. The Lord is coming soon. Never before has this decision required more consideration then now. The Lord is preparing a people to meet Him. He is preparing His bride. I believe that the Lord uses the marriage relationship to refine, polish, and finish our characters. There are many people in the world who are hungering for the words of God and the Lord has called us to give them the words of life. I truly believe that the lord has brought us together to labor for souls and to purify our characters. God brought us together to finish His work in us. I want to experience that finishing touch. Will you walk with me? I wrote a song for you entitled, O Let Me Walk With Thee.”
David sang his proposal to me with a clear, strong voice:
“O let me walk with thee, my Love,
As man and wife till we grow old.
Be mine my wife, my only one
And sweet communion with me hold.
Among all daughters you I see.
O Sunshine, let me walk with thee.
It is not good to walk alone,
The Lord has declared in His Word.
I know He made you from my rib.
I know my prayers for you He heard.
He brought you from across the sea.
O Ranya let me walk with thee.
If I may rest my love in thine,
I’ll count it mercy of the Lord.
Only by Jesus blood have I
To boast of this love you afford.
I don’t deserve your love for me,
Yet, Caroline, will you marry me?”
Through my tears I managed a soft, “Yes” which was followed by another stronger “Yes, I will marry you”. I was so happy. The moment I had looked forward to all my life was more beautiful then I could have ever dreamed.
David then presented me with a heart shaped box. When I opened it I found a beautiful engagement watch inside. As David carefully placed the watch on my right arm and secured it there he shared why he had picked out that very watch for me.
“The circles on this watch represent the cycles of righteousness. As the cycles of righteousness is one of the most important lessons I learned this year, I am happy to have found a gift that can reflect that truth. Let us be faithful stewards of our time being accountable for every minute. As every cycle of weeks turn and as every season of the year changes, let us grow deeper and deeper in love with God and deeper in love with one another. This watch symbolizes my commitment to growing with you for the rest of time.”
David caressed my hand and then ever so gently he lifted my right hand to his lips and kissed it. Later that evening he kissed my hand again as we said goodnight. With that kiss he gently said, “Your Father gave me permission to kiss your hand tonight but I told him that would be the only kiss before our wedding day. We will wait.” And so we have treasured the thought of our first kiss on the wedding day and many more kisses after that.
Again David presented to me a box. Upon opening it I found the box to be full of large medjool dates. These special dates had been a treat that we had shared regularly during our courtship.
David said, “Dates represent our courtship. I will always ask myself when we eat dates, “Am I still courting my wife? Am I still courting Caroline?”.”
At this time Kathleen and Stephen brought us some engagement gifts. Some of the gifts included a metal basin, painted pitcher, and a towel with the letter C on it. David asked to wash my feet as a symbol of his desire to serve me the rest of his life. I in turn washed his feet. Then David turned to me and asked, “Caroline, would you like to go on a walk with me?”
“Oh, yes!” I said. As I bundled up, David lit a beautiful lantern that my parents had bought for this occasion. We stepped out into the brisk evening air. The sky was so clear and the stars were sparkling so brightly. This was our first walk hand-in-hand. We had been saving this special act of affection for our engagement. Through the orchard, down the lane through the woods and out into the field we walked, to the place where we will now be having our wedding. As we stepped out into the open field David saw a bright shooting star fly across the sky. It was like a little sign of God’s approval and blessing. Praising the Lord, we headed back down the lane to the house.
As we neared the house we saw that there were little candles lighting the pathway to the front door. Paul and Stephen had lined the walk, from the drive all the way to the front door and then down the hall to the living room, with little candles that sparkled like stars in the crisp night air. Inside, we were greeted by the whole farm family. “Behold, the bridegroom cometh.” they proclaimed as we entered. There was an Arab feast spread out on the floor. We gathered around and ate by candle light as David and I recounted the events of the evening.
Towards the close of the evening my sister, Evangeline, shared a song that the Lord had given her in a dream. The song was about me. Evie and all my little cousins sang it as Jonathan played on the guitar.
“Caroline is like a bright red apple.
She’s all ripe and ready to pick.
It just makes one want to say, ‘I love you. Won’t you be mine?’
For, Caroline is like a bright red apple.
She’s all ripe and ready to pick.”
My heart was greatly moved by that song and I could not hold the tears back as they sang. To me the words were coming right from my Jesus. It was as if He were looking down upon me and singing over me with joy. He was satisfied with the sacrifice of my life and He was proclaiming that I was now ready for marriage.